Here’s a good article to encourage your relationships by the late, great Adrian Rogers.  Enjoy!

Secrets To A Lasting Love

by: Adrian Rogers

      “Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as
      brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or
      railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are
      thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. For he that will love
      life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his
      lips that they speak no guile.” I Peter 3:8-10.
      Do you want to learn how to keep the honey in the honeymoon? There’s no
      better advice I can give couples today, then to submit to the Lordship of
      Christ in their home. Here are five secrets God has revealed from His Word
      to develop a lasting love in your relationship:
      Fortify Faith
      Joyce understands that God is first in my life and she doesn’t mind being
      second. Why? Because she knows that I can love her more by putting her
      second than I ever could love her by putting her first.
      First Peter 3:7 says, “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to
      knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as
      being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not
      hindered” (emphasis mine).
      There is no male superiority and female inferiority when it comes to
      trusting in God.
      Banish Bitterness
      Every home is going to be attacked. Ours has, yours will, too. There are
      three kinds of attacks. First, there are earthquakes that shake your
      family to the very foundation. Second, there are woodpeckers that peck
      away at your home, and third, there are termites that silently eat away at
      your home. Usually, it is easier to deal with the earthquakes and the
      woodpeckers than it is the termites.
      If we would just banish bitterness and attack the problem rather than one
      another, our families would be a lot better off.
      Continue Communication
      First Peter 3:8-10 has much to say about the communication a couple needs
      to have in order to enjoy a lasting love. Joyce and Adrian are very
      different. We took a psychological profile and the very areas that I was
      the highest in, she’s the lowest in. In many ways we are total opposites.
      And yet, typically what attracts us before marriage drives us crazy after.
      One way we can build communication is to have a good date life and there
      are four kinds of dates that every couple needs to make ─ each spouse
      needs to have a daily date with God; If a couple has children, each one
      needs to have a regular date with their kids; Couples need to have a date
      by themselves; Then, they need to have a date with each other.
      Refresh Romance
      Keep the love light burning. Let’s look again at 1 Peter 3:7, “Likewise,
      ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the
      wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace
      of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
      So many couples stop courting one another after they marry. Never let it
      end. Another thing I encourage you to do is to compliment one another.
      Joyce and I regularly walked most mornings. In our neighborhood is a curve
      in the road that we called “the compliment curve.” From the time we got on
      that curve till the end, we would do nothing but compliment one another.
      Now, because I am a man, I have more to say to men about what they can do
      to keep the romance alive. Gentleman, never cease flirting with your wife.
      You need to keep your wife “first” above all other women. Second, respect
      and be courteous to her at all times. Open the door for her – and not just
      when other people are looking.
      Practice Prayer
      I say this last, not because it is least, but because it is most
      important. First Peter 3:7 tells the husband to “dwell with them according
      to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and
      as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not
      hindered.”
      Joyce and I started out our marriage and continued it in praying together.
      In the mornings, we would pray for each of our children and grandchildren
      by name because we know the Bible says, “Except the LORD build the house,
      they labor in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the
      watchman waketh but in vain” (Psalm 127:1).
      To the men who may be reading this, I implore you to humble yourself and
      get down on your knees with your wife and practice prayer. It will give
      her great confidence and comfort.
      If you are married or are contemplating marriage, pray about doing these
      things to create a love that will last.
      • Love Worth Finding (Tuesday, January 23, 2007)

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